People come into your life for
a REASON, a SEASON, or a LIFETIME,
when you figure out which it is,
you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON .....
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a God send ~ and they are. They are there for the REASON you need them to be ... then, without warning, any wrong doing on
your part or at an inconvenient time, they will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, sometimes they walk away, and sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What you must realize is that your need has been met, your desire fulfilled, and their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON .....
It is because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But ... only for a SEASON.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons ..... Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to good use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
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I'm touched by the simplicity but profoundness of these words. This concept sheds an entirely different light on past relationships, both in my immediate real life and on line. I no longer grieve those people but feel a great sense of gratitude for the purpose that they served in my life. My hope is that I was able to serve some purpose in theirs as well. All of it was for a reason and a season.
It's the lifetime people that I struggle the most with sometimes. Learning to let go of someone who is in the lifetime category is hard. Watching someone walk the journey to their death is a very humbling experience. Being invited and able to walk with them is even more profound and humbling.
What determines if someone lives a lifetime in 2 days, or 20 years (like my sister), or 43 or 44 (like my friend who is battling cancer) or 104 (like the women in yesterday's local obituary)?
What makes a lifetime?
It's up to each of us to determine what makes a lifetime...and perhaps some of us never really know for sure - but one thing I do know is that it's those relationships that fill in the spaces and make it all worthwhile.