The mind is a powerful thing dear friends.
For about 6 years before my divorce, I was really in so many bad places mentally with all the tricks and damage that TheLoser had me tangled in.
For the past 6 years I've been fighting for freedom - emotionally and financially.
I've written and lamented about my trials and tribulations and triumphs concerning the financial situations that I've had with him. We've been in and out of court and continued to deal with difficulties. It takes up a tremendous amount of emotional energy to deal with these kinds of things on an ongoing basis. It's been so long that this stress has been a part of my life that it's like a second nature nightmare. Muck - stuck in the muck and mire of life.
Today I graduated to a new level - actually I think that he has graduated to a new level as well.
I received the check from the attorney last week that paid about $6K of his bill and that left him a little under $2000 that he still owed. I was anticipating spending the next 2 to 3 years trying to collect that amount in $75 weekly increments.
Not any more. In today's mail arrived a check for the total remaining balance. He is paid in full. This is the first time in over 8 years that he doesn't owe me any money. It's the first time in years that I feel more free from him and his 'ways'. It's the first time in years that I feel free from the entanglement.
I'm closer to being debt free. I'm free from the emotional entanglement of dealing with him on money related issues. I worked in my flowerbeds today for over 4 hours. I'm dog tired but it's a wonderful kind of bone tired. We have a roaring fire in the fireplace and everyone has had their evening shower/bath. There's some smooth jazz on the stereo....life is good.
For the first time in years.....this is such a great place to be.