Even with all the activity of the new house, I've been taking trips down memory lane this past week. I used to be very active on a homebirth message board but when my schedule became more full, I had to give up the frequency of posting there.
Baby K will be a year old on the 15th - that's next week. I was reading some of the post that I made this time last year and decided that I'd share some of the things that I wrote about, including attending my 20 Year High School Reunion when I was 11 days past my due date. I've copied and pasted these post and have to warn you in advance that the typos and grammar will drive you crazy. Keep in mind that this is a group of women - and we talk about intimate stuff. I've tried to delete names and really personal information but I may have missed something along the way. This stuff is pretty raw...so consider yourself warned that you're about to read 'real life' as I perceived it to be last year this time. Perhaps I'll share several of the post - it just depends on how quickly I get them done and how much time I have. They are in no particular order of importance but I've tried to keep them in order of the dates of events.
Here's a post that I made concerning stupid comments from former classmates of mine when I attended the high school reunion.
It was great to be with only my hubby and no kids in a hotel room with a king size bed and no pitter patter of feet at all hours of the night. No food preparation, no cleaning house, no one to be responsible for but myself. We got there and got naked but I was just devastated that it hurt too bad to even touch down there and while I know he understands and is sensitive to my needs.......God Bless Him........he had to settle for just cuddling and well - you know :) So much for the orgasms, or prostuglandins from sperm this go around (with J, it was like more than several times a day even at the end).
My pubic bone behaved as expected but I was REALLY REALLY careful to be nice to it. I had to remind B not to "hover" over me too much about overdoing it, lest I get emotionally irritated <w> and we both did pretty good. I'm still very uncomfortable and have been in moderate pain at times......and I'm just keeping my fingers XX'd that this gets better after delivery.
I absolutely HATED all the "jokes" and stupid, asinine comments from people who are so socially inept that they can't think of anything meaningful or even passable to say to other people and have to resort to plain ole bull$hit stuff. I did learn of the "source" of all the information out there (or at least I think I did) about how I'm birthing. After the 3rd time of this person making a comment about if I brought my "birth pool" and telling me (in front of a group of men that I haven't seen for 20 years and didn't know my personal business from Adam) that she thought about presenting me with a birth pool as an appreciation of all my efforts as chair..... I finally just took a deep breath and said, "I cant for the life of me figure out why other people are so fascinated with my personal and private birthing choices. It seems that its "MY BUSINESS" and I also can't figure out how so many other people know so much about those choices.......can you?" and I just stood there and stared her straight away. She was fumbling and grasping for something to say back....... and I realized I made my point. Really ticked me off. She didn't speak to me anymore that whole weekend and I can't say that I lost any sleep over it either.
Some other things that I heard....... you all can laugh with me. With the exception of what I said to that one woman who thought she was my press secretary, I just smiled and kept my mouth shut.....but what I was "thinking" is in ( ).
#1 and most common - "Gosh you are pregnant/ huge, when are you due?" (Hell yeah, I'm huge... I'm 42weeks pregnant and I'm having an `11+ pound baby. But you aren't pregnant, just fat....at least I have an excuse)
#2 "You AREN'T going to have/drop/push out/deliver the baby tonight, are you?" (I don't know....and don't plan to tell you even if/when I do)
#3 "If you have the baby tonight - I can deliver it. I had a MW" (this was probably one of the most humorous....that someone would think they are qualified to catch my baby or direct me through labor only because they had a MW in a hospital @@)
#4 "If you go into labor tonight - make sure you come and get me cause I can help you. I work in L&D" (another @@ from me......as if I would seek out the assistance of not only this person because of who she is as a person that I knew from HS, but that because she is a L&D nurse's AIDE that well, whatever...... you get the idea, right? LOL)
#5 "You are almost 40 years old.......don't you know what causes THAT?" (Assuming they are referring to sexual intercourse as the cause of conception.......well duh!) After hearing this for the umpteenth dozen times.... I just looked at the woman and said "and your point is?"
#6 "I guess you are going to be doing a lot of dancing tonight to start labor, huh?" (NO @@, what makes you think in your sick-butt mind that I prefer to go into labor tonight, in the middle of my 20 year high school reunion, in a city where I don't live, away from my home and the rest of my family? Besides..... I'm too uncomfortable to even walk and sit to pee........how the heck I could get on a dance floor and dance is beyond even the comprehension of even Jesus Christ)
#7 "Shouldn't you be home in bed?/ At the hospital/ Getting induced?" (just looking at the roots of my scalp with total nausea at the absurdity of these people)
#8 (and this was my tee total favorite off all the weekend cause it was sincere and came straight from the heart from one of my friends' husband. He was in front of my husband when he said it) Towards the end of the evening, when I was worn out and trying to make my exit.......As he put his arm around me and his other on my belly.......and said, "I can't tell you how ravishing and absolutely beautiful you look.......you glow, you are so sexy and B is one lucky man". (obviously, I began to cry.......and then he hugged me and kissed me on the cheek and we left and I felt like something really special.....when we got into the elevator and I was wiping my eyes and cheeks - my hubby hugged me and said, "You know, he's right..... I AM a lucky man and you really are beautiful and sexy." so I cried even more.......)
[Edited to add: I had to laugh when I read this because this particular man was recently arrested and charged for indecent exposure to school children. Seems that the law has evidence and eye witnesses who have caught him doing it (exposing himself to school kids) for several months. I don't know if he is guilty or not, I still consider his wife a friend of mine even though she is too embarrassed to let any of us be close to her since all this happened, and I still needed to hear that I was beautiful and sexy :)....but I wonder if he just wanted to touch me or got some rise out of being that close to me?]